Studies indicate that gay men are at a higher risk for suicide, surpassing even HIV as a leading cause of premature mortality.

Alcoholism, substance abuse and other damaging addictions, not to mention ongoing stress, were already working to create a physical and mental health crisis for gay men long before the pandemic.

For some of us, being gay is hard and the toll can be heavy over the course of a lifetime.

Being Gay Can Be Tough

Figuring out the difficult things requires you to hang in there, especially when you:

  • Feel like you’re never enough to fit in, have friends, or find love.
  • Deal with stuff like shame, insecurity, or social anxiety.
  • Can't find connection or community because everyone is cliquey, dodgy, “thirst-trappy,” or too gay.

It takes courage, resolve, and tenacity to hold your ground and honor your truth, especially when it contradicts what your family wants, society expects, religion tells you, or gay norms lead you to believe.

Gay Self-Acceptance Is a Journey

Dealing with the reality of being gay can be very stressful, especially if you’re trying to keep it buried and out of sight.

For me, childhood rejection, loneliness, and abuse left me feeling worthless, traumatized, and full of shame.

Hiding, pretending, or even trying to “fix the problem” is a tall order when you're a kid.

Coming to terms with myself was and continues to be a long journey.

Figuring things out takes time, patience, and effort.

How about you join me?

Read More:

Why Gay Self-Care Isn't Optional

Bend Without Breaking: The Art of Gay Resilience

Why Gay Belonging Is the Hardest Thing to Fake

Disclaimer: The information and perspectives shared in my posts, articles, and videos are based on my personal experiences and reflections. I am not a licensed therapist, counselor, or medical professional, and this content should not be considered a substitute for professional advice. If you are experiencing distress, depression, or mental health challenges, please reach out to a qualified professional who can provide the help you need. For immediate support, contact a mental health provider or, if you are in crisis, please call the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988 (available in the U.S.) or your local emergency number.